Thursday, June 18, 2009

It's what you say...

I was lying in bed, wide awake, listening to the hacking sounds of my husband. I had several thoughts cross my mind -

It's been well over a week and this cough isn't getting any better. I know he's a stubborn butthead and thinks his immune system will work this one out, but it's taking too long. It's 5am and I want to go back to sleep. Should I say something? He's due for a physical anyway. It's really important I word what I say in just the * right * way. Saying "GO TO THE DOCTOR ALREADY!" might come off as harsh. Hmm...

I mulled over my exact words for at least 15 minutes (remember, it's 5am. I'm not too bright this early in the morning).

I lean over and gently rub his back. Then I say, "Babe, I love you..."


"...but your coughing is annoying. Please go to the doctor."

Eh? Pretty good, huh?

Moral of the story: If you say something nice, throwing a "but" in the sentence negates the niceness. Or so I'm told.

This led to him feeling guilty for being sick and acting snarky and slightly defensive this morning. Hmm...wonder why.
Though, he did agree to go to the doctor...just to shut me up.


ShankRabbit said...

*cough* *cough* *HAAACK* *cough*

Call Me Cate said...

Whatever the reason, at least he went to the doctor.

And then he hacked snot all over your blog. Great.

Eternal Lizdom said...

I've found it helpful to make it HIS idea. "That cough has me kind of worried... you can't be feeling good... I hope it isn't something more serious... I wonder if... I don't know... I wonder if there is something you can do?"

ShankRabbit said...


I can see right past that. Good try though. :)

Jason said...

My wife's stubborn like that too. That's why I call and make the appointment for her.

Anonymous said...

Gee, babe, do you think that could be lung cancer? works too. ~Mary

glnroz said...

Look who is the "but..." head.. lol. I will wait out a cough too long also. Kick him in the butt and make him go.. lol