Thursday, March 19, 2009

You're right

ShankRabbit used to be the type of person who never liked to admit when he was wrong. In the early part of our courtship whenever I was right, he'd never say, "you're right." Instead, he'd opt not to say anything at all. He has gotten much better about this - even going as far as saying, "you're right honey."
I dare to say I may have been the same way...but, moving on...

Peanut's first birthday is on the 19th of April. We are planning a small* get-together the day before for close friends and family. Our house isn't equipt to accommodate everyone we'd like to invite, so I suggested renting our church's banquet space for the party. ShankRabbit was confident we could do it at home. I disagreed.

Fast forward to yesterday. I had several days to think about his idea and I came to the conclusion that he was right. We'd have to move some of our furniture to the basement and borrow chairs from people, but other than that - we could do it. And with the money we'd save, we could use it for more food and decorations.

So, I hopped on gmail and we had the following conversation:
me: So...I've been thinking
: uh oh
: We should have the birthday party at home
: um
hold on
Let me ask you something
What were you wearing when i proposed to you?
: We could move the dining room table out and replace that with seating...(borrow chairs from others if we need to)...
Oh...uh, bears sweatshirt, guard sweatshirt, jeans, cowboy hat**
: Just want to make sure it's you
and not... some crazy possessed version of you
'cause I'm pretty sure you are asking me if my idea was good
: I'm not asking...I'm telling
I've really had time to think about it
And if it's not nice out, we can still accommodate a good amount of peeps in the house
: Yeah... see
This is going to take like 5 minutes to sink in
it just makes so much sense
and... I'm not used to you making sense
: Hey now!
: And I'd be glad to help you now that all my ideas can come in to play too
: Well, there go all my ideas and half my brain cells! (I just smacked my head into the ceiling). Owie!***
Shankrabbit: Since... you know... all my ideas were based on us at home. Ooouch. I'm sorry.
: OK, butthead...I get it! You rock! You have the BEST. IDEAS. EVER. Bow down to the almighty SHANKRABBIT!
: thank you.

* "small" used to mean 8-10 people to us. But since Peanut was born, we've added more people to our close circle. Now, a "small" party is about 25 - give or take a few.
** I'm sure you're very curious why I was wearing this particular outfit. This requires a post all its own.
*** We have slanted ceilings in our upstairs area...I smack my head on it quite often.


Call Me Cate said...

This reminds me of living with Joe only in reverse. I'll tell him about an idea I have. Let's say the idea is to buy a new fridge. He "uh huhs" it. Then, a few days/weeks later, he'll come to me and say "I was talking to (coworker, classmate, random dude on the street) and they said we should really buy a new fridge. I think (coworker, classmate, random dude on the street) is right!". Completely oblivious that it was originally my idea. But now he has outside blessing.

Oh, sorry, I think I got ranty. Good luck with the party! My nephew will be one on 4/15 but we won't make it to the party.

Isabella said...

We've had some situations like this before, except we are very quick to point out to the other that we originated the idea. For some reason, that usually deflates the excitement of the idea. "You did?...oh, well...whatever." :)

Thanks for sending me luck - I'm going to need it. When Perfectionist Isabella (coupled with I-Can-Make-This-Myself Isabella) is in full force, she sends Everyday Isabella into a stressed-out tailspin.

andy said...

Firstly, I am totally jealous of your husbands nickname "shankrabbit".

That is awesome. Way more thoughtful than "the boyfriend".

Unless that is his real name and I've totally just insulted you...sorry.

And I'm also glad I don't have a lot of family. Saves on gatherings. Less stress, more lonliness;)

Have fun, those first years are a blast!

Isabella said...

@ andy - LOL. Not his real name...that would be interesting though.

Yes, lots of family does have its good and bad qualities. :)

ShankRabbit said...


Heh... I wish.

Though maybe for my birthday Isabella will let me change it. :)

Melisa with one S said...

Although I'm not right 100% of the time, I usually don't say "I told you so" or "I was right...again" but somehow my husband has gotten in the habit of telling our kids "Your mom's usual!"

I don't stop him. :)

Jason said...

Awesome post, it's about time us husbands get some recognition(cause lord knows that we're always right :P)

Liz said...

Good to know he's so... humble.

Mocha Dad said...

It's good to be right.

ciara said...

my husband has the need to always be right...when he's right, i let him know it, but when he's wrong, you can be damned sure i let him know that, too! lol one time we got into a discussion about tomatoes being fruit. he said they were vegetables and since he was in the grocery store business he would know this. i told him that everyone thinks it is, but it's not. i told him because it's seed bearing, just like squash, cucumbers, etc. he had to look it up on the computer and was proven wrong. i have proved him wrong on more than one occasion lol

anyways, one day i made him a little poster saying knowledge is know that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad. LOL (a blogger friend gave me that quote)

PJ Mullen said...

Much too funny. Happy birthday to your little girl. My little man's is four days before. I have to be careful with the "tax deduction on tax day" jokes around my wife. I'm very much in the wrong thinking they are funny. :)

Joeprah said...

I enjoyed living this moment with you guys although it never...ever...ever happens between my wife an I. :D Master Shank FTW!

KWG said...

Oh my. Anybody who's ever been in a long-term relationship has played "I'm right" ping pong. Sweet.

Bella Daddy said...

You two are SO MEANT FOR EACH OTHER! :-) I loved this post! And YUP, we can SO RELATE!